Post by shellie on Aug 15, 2016 13:20:29 GMT
Good Morning to all the Lovely Ladies
Well, long time no 'see'.
Just fluttering along here. Trying to do a 'room by room' declutter. The worst of it is DS23's room (the spare room) that much of DMum's and now Dad's stuff has been stored. And the garage. There are still items from the Auction (that didn't sell) that need to be either sold on Buy/Sell/Swap pages or EBay or the rest taken to the OPShop. It's just hard getting rid of the last of DMum's things. But it has to be done.
Hubby and Kids are all well.
And Dad is mostly settling into the Nursing Home. I had lunch with him there for the 1st time on Wednesday. Told him is would be a rare thing (not on my diet) which he understood at the time, but then today he rang and was a little confused about it. He did say the other day that he had decided he would accept his fate and try to assimilate more into the Nursing Home Community. He would have settled far quicker if his wife hadn't kept confusing him and if his stepdaughter wasn't perpetuating her mothers confusing. Things like not being honest with her mother that Dad's move was permanent, but then clearing all his things from their place (well the things that Stepdaughter didn't want anyway). Most of his clothes were filthy, torn or stained so most went into the bin. Had to raid Hubby and DS's wardrobes to make up the difference. I have noticed things won't last long there, already things are looking shabby, so I will have to hunt some things in the winter sales for next season. Don't want to buy too much, but still will need some things.
I am still getting the nuisance texts from his stepdaughter, not so vile as the 1st 10 or so, but just trying to agitate. I have decided she is a bit of a control freak (no offense to our own resident control freaks). I have told her I have no intention of responding but she persists, I think we are well over the dozen unwanted texts so far (on a phone number she stole from my Dad's possessions) funny how no address/phone book came with his things. Anyway, she is really quite pointless. Today's tripe was about her Mother's concern of Dad not having had a hair cut. Funny I had the same thought last week, took him past the 'in house' hairdresser and inquired and he refused saying his wife cuts his hair and would be upset if anyone else did it. They have clippers at home. ( she bought them into hospital after about 6weeks and cut it there) So whether or not her daughter allows her to bring them in will be another thing. When I told Dad about the text he and I just laughed about the ridiculousness of her texting me about it and he is quite capable of making this decision himself. I did tell him if he wanted to let it grow we could plait it. He has such little hair, it's really not a huge problem. (Just a reason for the stepdaughter to criticize my 'care' of Dad - she is such an idiot). In the meantime she is causing her own mother so such confusion and anguish with telling her lies (about Dad and I), she is making so many lies up I don't know how she keeps them straight and then she tells her mother it's because of her mothers bad memory (Dementia) that the mother can't remember how she use to know these things. Dad's wife tells our 'Mediator' everything and he tries to tell her it's lies, but she won't believe her daughter would lie to her. Not much I can do about it, I have never been interested in what they think of me. But I do worry that overtime stepdaughter will succeed in trying Dad's wife against her and she will no longer visit. This would upset Dad, so I wouldn't want that.
Anyway, writing this Monday night, about to head off to bed. I hope your all well and doing well and FLYing high xoxo
Well, long time no 'see'.
Just fluttering along here. Trying to do a 'room by room' declutter. The worst of it is DS23's room (the spare room) that much of DMum's and now Dad's stuff has been stored. And the garage. There are still items from the Auction (that didn't sell) that need to be either sold on Buy/Sell/Swap pages or EBay or the rest taken to the OPShop. It's just hard getting rid of the last of DMum's things. But it has to be done.
Hubby and Kids are all well.
And Dad is mostly settling into the Nursing Home. I had lunch with him there for the 1st time on Wednesday. Told him is would be a rare thing (not on my diet) which he understood at the time, but then today he rang and was a little confused about it. He did say the other day that he had decided he would accept his fate and try to assimilate more into the Nursing Home Community. He would have settled far quicker if his wife hadn't kept confusing him and if his stepdaughter wasn't perpetuating her mothers confusing. Things like not being honest with her mother that Dad's move was permanent, but then clearing all his things from their place (well the things that Stepdaughter didn't want anyway). Most of his clothes were filthy, torn or stained so most went into the bin. Had to raid Hubby and DS's wardrobes to make up the difference. I have noticed things won't last long there, already things are looking shabby, so I will have to hunt some things in the winter sales for next season. Don't want to buy too much, but still will need some things.
I am still getting the nuisance texts from his stepdaughter, not so vile as the 1st 10 or so, but just trying to agitate. I have decided she is a bit of a control freak (no offense to our own resident control freaks). I have told her I have no intention of responding but she persists, I think we are well over the dozen unwanted texts so far (on a phone number she stole from my Dad's possessions) funny how no address/phone book came with his things. Anyway, she is really quite pointless. Today's tripe was about her Mother's concern of Dad not having had a hair cut. Funny I had the same thought last week, took him past the 'in house' hairdresser and inquired and he refused saying his wife cuts his hair and would be upset if anyone else did it. They have clippers at home. ( she bought them into hospital after about 6weeks and cut it there) So whether or not her daughter allows her to bring them in will be another thing. When I told Dad about the text he and I just laughed about the ridiculousness of her texting me about it and he is quite capable of making this decision himself. I did tell him if he wanted to let it grow we could plait it. He has such little hair, it's really not a huge problem. (Just a reason for the stepdaughter to criticize my 'care' of Dad - she is such an idiot). In the meantime she is causing her own mother so such confusion and anguish with telling her lies (about Dad and I), she is making so many lies up I don't know how she keeps them straight and then she tells her mother it's because of her mothers bad memory (Dementia) that the mother can't remember how she use to know these things. Dad's wife tells our 'Mediator' everything and he tries to tell her it's lies, but she won't believe her daughter would lie to her. Not much I can do about it, I have never been interested in what they think of me. But I do worry that overtime stepdaughter will succeed in trying Dad's wife against her and she will no longer visit. This would upset Dad, so I wouldn't want that.
Anyway, writing this Monday night, about to head off to bed. I hope your all well and doing well and FLYing high xoxo
