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Post by judy on Jun 8, 2015 12:37:52 GMT
 Hi Everyone
Hope you all enjoyed your nice long weekend!
Yesterday I spent 5 hours at the rental property and have undercoated all window and door frames with the help of a DF and DSiL. DH has done a lot of outdoor painting- changing from Mission Brown to Classic Cream and Blue Ocean. It looks so good. He has done a whole new front porch and railing, the back porch and put new laser light up and has another carport to go. Our friend has replaced a bench top and has more to do there but also put in a new front door and security door- it all looks so good, maybe we should move back there haha
Today is a work day for me and then Im going to DD30’s for dinner and when we, together with DD25 and one of my DGFs are going to the local theatre. DH is on afternoon shift and it couldn’t be changed. He was going to swap the tickets for another night but didn’t get around to it. The play is called Secret Bridesmaids Business so I guess it will be a fun girls night out  I am leaving work an hour earlier than normal as i had to start early last Thursday and they dont want to pay over time so i will water all my pot, hanging and indoor plants before getting changed and going out.
I’ve managed to keep up with washing and folding. Meals haven’t been first rate, but hey, nobody is starving. 
Tomorrow i am having a small procedure at the Drs- just a cyst removed and hopefully DH will allow me to stay home and do my WHB. He doesn’t get that I need to keep up to date with all that or Im a bit of a wreck. I dont get how he can work all day and then put 4-5 hours in at the rental
Hope you all Have a Terrific Tuesday!! x x |
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Post by elizabeth36 on Jun 8, 2015 21:22:55 GMT
Hi Judy and those to come,
I think I get it, Judy, when you can be swept away in DH's plans, but also need to try to keep home calm and flowing. I find my weekends are often subverted, all good family time and I enjoy spending time with DH, but I ended up getting up very early this morning to catch up on some jobs that I had wanted to do on the weekend. Sounds like the rental is looking fab, though. I hope your op. goes smoothly and you're not too uncomfortable.
Today is a work day, although I'm staying at school after drop off because DS9 is getting an award on assembly. I have mixed feelings about such awards because DS9 has been overlooked every year so far because he is a quiet, conscientious kid but doesn't generally stand out. I really appreciate his teacher this year and hope he feels really good about it. DH is picking up the kids this afternoon so I should be able to work through until about 4.30pm if needed.
9 days until Japan and I am trying to get everything done that needs to be done before I go. So looking forward to it, though.
Wishing you all a terrific Tuesday.
Note to self:
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Post by medusahair on Jun 8, 2015 21:45:30 GMT
Hope the cyst removal goes well Judy
Congratulations to DS for the award Elizabeth
Today I need to get the errands done, find somewhere to do my hair for DB's wedding in 2 weeks.... I thought I was getting mine done at the same place as DMum, but I was wrong
Hope everyone has a great day
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Post by shellie on Jun 8, 2015 21:55:11 GMT
Good Morning Lovely Ladies
WHB day for me today (my goodness my life is exciting)
DD21 and TNB (who may be renamed soon) are planning to move out. Now I know that this was 'on the cards' but I thought I had convinced her that it would be good to wait until she gets a job. We are NOT going to foot her rent bill (not that she has asked) and I don't feel it's 'good for the soul' to be totally dependent on a boyfriend for rent/food/fashion/fun. As she is studying full time this year she does have small govt assistance but as soon as the study stops, so does that. She will be TOTALLY DEPENDENT on TNB (name change pending). He currently lives with his parents (to get him out of a tough spot) but is biting at the bit to move closer to his work (1hr from here) to cut down travel time. Well that 1hr will be quite a barrier for coming for regular visits. His parents have been putting money away to help buy furniture and white goods for the move and seem very keen to make it happen. DD21 doesn't seem to be planning on even part time work until study is finished. And the kicker, DD17 has been told the move could be as quickly as in 4 weeks, I am feeling like she could also give her current landlord (ME) the same notice as she gives her little sister. We sat and talked about it yesterday arvo (after they had bought a table/chairs and were talking about storing it) but no date mentioned. Feeling abandoned.
Ok, so time to get moving and cleaning (while I still have people to clean up after). My head has gone straight to 'big empty house'.
Wishing you all a Terrific Tuesday xoxo
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Post by elizabeth36 on Jun 9, 2015 0:08:04 GMT
Hi Shellie, Sharing a tuppence re. you being right in every way about potential pitfalls for dependence on TNB.
I moved out and went overseas with now husband (and it worked, luckily), but I did lose a lot of independence for a time even though I was working and had income etc.
Just wanted to add my support and send you a 'story' to share with DD because knowing what I know now, I still have my own bank account, although we share expenses, but that independence is so important. Ideas and goals might align now, but women should never be in a position to have to ask permission for what should be independent decisions. And I was 25 when I did that, had finished my uni degree etc. etc.
Good luck!
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Post by shellie on Jun 9, 2015 0:37:30 GMT
Hi Shellie, Sharing a tuppence re. you being right in every way about potential pitfalls for dependence on TNB.
I moved out and went overseas with now husband (and it worked, luckily), but I did lose a lot of independence for a time even though I was working and had income etc.
Just wanted to add my support and send you a 'story' to share with DD because knowing what I know now, I still have my own bank account, although we share expenses, but that independence is so important. Ideas and goals might align now, but women should never be in a position to have to ask permission for what should be independent decisions. And I was 25 when I did that, had finished my uni degree etc. etc.
Good luck!
But she won't be bringing anything to the table. And I am also fearful she won't have the same employment opportunities 'following' him to that area. Not a lot of jobs going for Dietitians, let alone in that area. I just have this vision of him going to work, her being stuck in an apartment by herself, no friends locally, no mum on hand, trying to finish her 'Honors' program (which already is stressing her out) an extra hour from the Uni and him encouraging (pressuring) her to get a part time job (that she won't be happy in) so she can contribute. Being expected to have 'dinner on the table'. Not being free to grab a bargain whenever she sees one. All the things she has been able to do while living at home. We have never charged board as no-one living here (except DH) ever had a full time job. The whole things is just my worst nightmare. And I thought I had made her see the reason of it, but now DD17 (not DD21) tells me it could be as quick as 4weeks from now, I seriously thought I had till next year sometime. I actually don't care if he moves, or if she 'stays over' ALOT, just the whole official 'moving out' thing puts her in this position.
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Post by elizabeth36 on Jun 9, 2015 10:09:27 GMT
Thanks Shellie - I also think it's different when it's a negotiation between adults. And women, in particular, feel free to make choices that are in their best interests. It may also be tricky for TNB to understand and support your DD with her studies and the focus it will need. But, my tuppence was meant more to support your intuition that it's pretty young and there seem to be things they might not have thought through. Not at all meant to be about SAHM vs go-out-to-work Mums - it's all a juggle and often it is a full-time 'job' raising kids and making the housekeeping money stretch. I think you're a wonderful mum
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Post by shellie on Jun 9, 2015 12:32:26 GMT
Thanks Shellie - I also think it's different when it's a negotiation between adults. And women, in particular, feel free to make choices that are in their best interests. It may also be tricky for TNB to understand and support your DD with her studies and the focus it will need. But, my tuppence was meant more to support your intuition that it's pretty young and there seem to be things they might not have thought through. Not at all meant to be about SAHM vs go-out-to-work Mums - it's all a juggle and often it is a full-time 'job' raising kids and making the housekeeping money stretch. I think you're a wonderful mum
It's just my frame of reference. xoxo
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I am leaving work an hour earlier than normal as i had to start early last Thursday and they dont want to pay over time so i will water all my pot, hanging and indoor plants before getting changed and going out.
