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Post by elizabeth36 on Jun 9, 2015 20:06:21 GMT
Hi everyone,
Up early ... again! But this time I did things for me! I want to set some publishing goals for myself - not just working on other people's reports. So made a small start this morning. (Not books or anything fancy - research articles). Today is a work day and I learnt from a colleague yesterday who was very good about some reasonable boundaries around her work. I know I have too much at the moment, but it's workable - just need to look at the long-term and change around a bit next year.
DH is doing the early drop off and work, but is picking up the boys after school. As long as his work fits around it, it helps so much that I don't do a short day both ends. This afternoon DS9 has rugby training and DD has a debate tonight. No idea yet what's for dinner, but will sort something. Thinking maybe lasagne and salad - people could nuke their own when ready. That or DIY pizzas perhaps?
Made a little headway on the home front buying small heaters for the kids' rooms (DS5 is staying in his own bed at night - touch wood), dropping off the printer cartridge to recycle, and bagging the giveaways to the boot of the car. Will need to organise a drop off soon.
Hope you all have a wonderful Wednesday. I love short weeks.
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Post by shellie on Jun 9, 2015 21:39:39 GMT
Good Morning Elizabeth and all the lovely ladies to come
Sounds like a busy day Elizabeth. It really does help when DH helps out. Lasagna and salad sounds delish (I miss Lasagna, must be time to make a Dukan one). Thanks for the support yesterday xoxo
I got my WHB done yesterday, feels good. Thought I might have to divorce DH if he walked his dirty shoes in again last night, but he must have got my vib, no dirt pile under his shoes.
Today is DMum Day. We are going to the GP. She has been feeling more short of breath this week. Not sure if it's the Lung condition worsening (it will happen), or Heart - there has been some fluid retention in the lower legs (it will happen), or a change in brand of tablet - same tablet just different brand (but she can be so sensitive to medicaitons). So off to the GP we go. Sadly, our 2nd Lung Specialist has basically said the same as the 1st (just in a much kinder way), No need for regular visits, No cure. At least he said he will be around if/when she is hospitalized. 1st Specialist had mentioned Palliative Care but GP said we are not there yet. She does have the Carers come every 2nd day for showers and Mondays for washing and house cleaning. Meals are mostly down to frozen dinners or things I make and take over. She is eating but her stomach is so sensitive (with a hiatus hernia) that it is an effort. Today I have Cauliflower Soup, Steak and Kidney and Risotto to take over.
Don't know, but kind of feeling like it's the beginning of the end. And I don't know what that's going to look like. She suffers so much and really doesn't have a lot of joy in her life. Never goes anywhere, no puff to get around. When I ask her here, it's too much effort and she says she can't be bothered. No one visits her but me. I want to 'tell' my brother what to do, to go visit as often as he can while he has the chance, but that's the best way for him to dig his heels in as he doesn't like being 'told' what to do. He won't even listen to her when she explains her condition, or current symptoms, he just changes the subject to 'about him'. Visits from him (or anyone in his family) will make her happy, but requesting them and them not happening will make her sadder. And honestly (sometimes I'm not nice) I just don't think it's my job to 'make sure' Brother does the right thing, let him be regretful when she's gone. I know I won't be, I really can't have done more. He is such an @$$. But deep down I do want her last days/weeks/months/years on this earth to be as happy as possible. I might have to start going more often. I know this is a selfish thought, but it will have to take my 'ME TIME' to do it and I know it will create a bigger 'hole' in my life once she dies if I fill more days with visiting her than I do now, I am already so concerned about how I will cope with her dying, the gap in my life (I am her ONLY person), the incredible LONELY job of clearing her home. And I also predict for communication from brother once there is a house settlement and will to be finalized. HE....IS....AN....@$$!!!!
Ok, time to take my BP pill and get a move along. Wishing you all a Wonderful Wednesday xoxo
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Post by medusahair on Jun 9, 2015 22:17:02 GMT
Good Morning Everyone
Hope you get everything done Elizabeth
*hugs* shellie, it is hard when your siblings only think of themselves. I hope the GP can help your mum
Today is bible study then housework.
Have a great day
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Post by judy on Jun 10, 2015 1:12:33 GMT
 Hi Everyone
Elizabeth- thats great that DH can help out with school runs. Shellie- do your kids drop into visit DM for a little while occasionally too? My DM just loves it when her grandkids do. You seen to think TNB is behind DD21 wanting to move out? Can they compromise and move 1/2 hr away? She needs to know that she will need to work part-time if moving out. Cant expect him to pay her car and personal expenses. Im sure you will let her move back home if it doesn’t work out? My DF has a 3 strikes and you’re out rule  Can move back twice only so choose wisely. Have fun at bible study Medusa.
We went to local theatre last night and I was very disappointed. It was meant to be a comedy but i dont think anything is funny when a bride finds out the night before her wedding that her fiancé has been unfaithful and then marries him anyway. So desperate to get married? Really? in this day and age we are still going down that road!?
I had a small cyst cut out at my Drs rooms this morning. I had DH come for moral support- not for taking photos!!  it was on my head so had to wash and blow wave my hair dry as soon as I got home. DH has gone to rental for rest of the day with a DF and hopefully DS21 will be helping out this afternoon. He is not needed at his work for rest of the week. We will pay him if he works hard i.e stays off his phone! He has been making some poor choices lately and didn’t pay rego. He’s found out he still has to pay rego + a fine of the same amount again. He also has some late Toll Road fines to pay. After he didn’t pay us back for 2 (small) loans he is not welcome at Bank of Mum and Dad anymore!!
Tonight we are going to Queen Vic Winter Night Market. We are going with 2 other couples. Should be fun but cold (need to really rug up!) and probably a late night- hope its worth it. I will google soon 
Today is WHB day and I do need to do my ironing. I have to do a lot to convince DH I need to stay home today and not work at rental place 
The good news is that we have booked -one way so far- our flights to Thailand and the first 8 days at a luxury resort- ON SALE!!
Hope you all Have a Great day!! x x
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Can move back twice only so choose wisely. Have fun at bible study Medusa.
it was on my head so had to wash and blow wave my hair dry as soon as I got home. DH has gone to rental for rest of the day with a DF and hopefully DS21 will be helping out this afternoon. He is not needed at his work for rest of the week. We will pay him if he works hard i.e stays off his phone! He has been making some poor choices lately and didn’t pay rego. He’s found out he still has to pay rego + a fine of the same amount again. He also has some late Toll Road fines to pay. After he didn’t pay us back for 2 (small) loans he is not welcome at Bank of Mum and Dad anymore!!
