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Post by Elasti-Girl on Jun 21, 2015 20:43:56 GMT
 Good Morning Everyone!
Today I'm planning to get back on top of things, a lot went by the wayside last week with 3 of us having colds.
Normally I'd buy groceries today but I bought a few things on Saturday so I'll make do for a couple more days.
Monday
morning routine
a load a day
ironing
pay bills
FACE
menu plan
afternoon routine
before bed routine
what's for dinner?
Wishing you all a great day  hope to BBL to cross things off
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Post by medusahair on Jun 21, 2015 21:47:01 GMT
Hope everyone is better Elasti
I am sick today, have been for a couple of days, but worse today.
DD to school, tell teacher I can't help with literacy today and then maybe groceries if I have a chance, but will probably be in bed for part of school hours.
Have a great day everyone
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Post by shellie on Jun 21, 2015 22:12:05 GMT
Good Morning Lovely Ladies
I remember when the kids were little, preschool and early school, they would seem to always have colds and bringing germs home to the household. So happy we are past that now. I hear how often you younger mums are sick and it worries me, but then I remember back, we were the same. Nowadays I can't remember the last (touch wood) cold I had. Maybe Elasti and Medusa, you could get hold of some Multivitamins or something herbs to give your immune systems a boost. And the kids too.
So Rant/Vent Ahead (turn away now if you don't want to see it)
DMum is 85, now I know that with age and illness comes some anger and resentment, maybe not exactly the right words, but she's a little pi$$y at the world. Now her world is very small, so there are only so many people in it. Basically her carers, her priest and me. All other contact is via the phone to her few friends and my brother.
After the conversation with the Carer Organizer, ("How can we improve assistance or quality of life for you or your family's life". DMum "Can someone please take me to see my son, he's an INVALID you know") Cut to me looking like a complete DOG!!! So after that humiliation, I suggested to DMum that she asks brother outright to arrange someone to bring him down to visit it her and try to make it a regular thing. His response "NO! That won't be possible, we will just have to be satisfied with our phone calls". So of course DMum is devastated, so who does she lash out at, ME!!!!
She basically accused my of something that hasn't happened yet, that I might/will do something mean and nasty, unfair and dishonest in the future. I have taken quite an offense to that, as it brings into question my character. And as I have NEVER done anything like that in the past (which she will happily admit to) I am really offended. So last night I approach the subject, I say my feelings are hurt, BUT that aside, we need to address if she really feels that way and find a solution to prevent these concerns of hers happening. Her response was 'well I said it, and I'm sorry I said it out loud, that's all I can do is say sorry, and I know you'll hold it against me and hold a grudge over me forever, so there is nothing more I can do".
WHAT THE HELL? ? Hold a grudge? That's my brother. Hold it against her? That's my brother. So it seems that brother has disappointed her and let her down,, so she lashes out to hurt someone else, LUCKY ME.
Of course I won't hold it against her, but you can't unring a bell. So from now on, I will know, that this is how she feels. She just finally said it out loud. Doesn't make me feel very good about myself, if my own mother has this opinion. Doesn't make me feel very appreciated for all I have done and continue to do and am being asked to do after she is gone. Brother has stated outright, he wants NOTHING to do with being executor of her will, so we are changing it ON MUM's SAY SO, to be me and DH. Can't help but wonder if brother will get his @$$ down to DMum's to pick through her belongings when she dies.
Anyway, DMum is old, and I don't want to spend her last time on this earth fighting. So I will again, suck it up and move on. Because I'm a Robot. And it's what I do.
Sorry about all that girls. Moving on
Today is DH day off, so of course he's going to work for awhile. The sun is shining on my towels I hung yesterday afternoon so that's good, and when DH gets out of bed I will wash the sheets today too.
Wishing you all a Marvelous Monday xoxo
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Post by medusahair on Jun 22, 2015 0:04:51 GMT
 *hugs* for you Shellie I hope that things improve |
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Post by shellie on Jun 22, 2015 1:32:56 GMT
*hugs* for you Shellie I hope that things improve
I have been thinking about things this morning. I tend to try to always see the best in people, I give 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th.....chances to people, believing that deep down we all have the power to change. And that although people may do a wrong/hurtful act, it doesn't make them a bad person. We ALL look at people through our own eyes, values, morals, integrity, experiences, feelings and we hope that others will match our own and do the same.
So, that being said, I've been thinking about DMum this morning, she looks at me, brother, everyone else through her own eyes, with her values, experiences, feelings, her hurts, etc....so I am wondering if she if projecting her feelings onto me. That these thoughts cross her mind and so therefore she thinks they would cross my mind. That deep down she feels I would be justified if I did act in a less that fair and just way. But she could NEVER be seen as making such a decision herself, never admit what we all know about brother.
All this being said, I know the person I am, I know my own integrity and although it will probably leave a bitter taste in my mouth doing it, I will be fair and honest. Yet again, when it comes to DMum and all that I deal with regard her and all I will have to single-handedly deal with in the future, I will just suck it up and move on. At the end of the day we all have to live with ourselves and the way we treat others. And if they can sleep well at night, then so be it.
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Post by judy on Jun 22, 2015 11:32:43 GMT
Shellie, you are one of the nicest, kindest, wisest, fairest, hard working, funnest, loveliest, people that I know. Families members are so important to you and you do so much to help them all. I'm so sorry that yours have hurt you! Love and big hugs from Judy xx
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Post by judy on Jun 22, 2015 11:34:04 GMT
Did I mention smartest |
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hope to BBL to cross things off
? Hold a grudge?
