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Post by medusahair on Aug 28, 2015 21:51:53 GMT
Hooray it is the weekend.  This weekend for us is a quiet one which is much needed. So I will be catching up with rest and housework Hope everyone is having a great weekend |
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Post by shellie on Aug 28, 2015 22:45:22 GMT
Good Morning Lovely Ladies
Holding things together here despite a hormonal and emotional week.
Got a call on Monday night to say my Dad had been taken to hospital. Found out his wife was also in hospital. Turns out my Dad had a lung infection but because he was trying to care for his wife he had not been caring for himself. After she was admitted to hospital he just didn't eat much and hadn't been to the Dr. He called a friend for a lift to the hospital to visit, thankfully the friend insisted he visit the GP instead. GP called an ambulance and had him admitted to the same hospital. He was confused, dehydrated, lung infection, very upset and hadn't been eating. I visited while he was in emergency dept and all he was concerned about was his wife and whether she had all she needed.
Although I have tried to maintain some sort of relationship with my Dad, I have never had one with his wife. Not in 37yrs. He lives 2 separate lives, and they do not cross. We have never seen him often but I've tried to maintain something for the kids sake. He is at least a kind and interested Grandfather. Anyway, it leaves me in the situation that I have my hands tied as to how I can help him. I was able to put together a Bathroom Kit (toothbrush, toothpaste, soap, bag) but unable to get his PJ's etc (as I have never been to his house). I am hoping his Step Daughter will help him out (Brother is no better with Dad than he is with Mum). So it's been emotional, worrying that he is not being looked after at home and is running himself into ill health to look after someone else. A lovely nurse listened to my concerns and said she would put in his notes that a Social Worker should become involved and that Aged Care assessments need to take place. That's all I can do. Such a different situation to the one I'm in with DMum, hands on and involved in everything. If our lives had turned out differently, if Dad had made different decisions, I would be that person for him too. It made me sad for him when I took DMum meals this week, lovely homemade favourites, healthy and nutritious, and knowing that at this stage it's just not something I can do for Dad. It is, what it is. Sis-in-Law and Brother went to visit Dad while Brother has a Dr visit at same hospital, Sis-i-Law said she over heard wife isn't even able to fill out a hospital menu, so I really don't know what condition she is in or how serious it is or the chance of what type of recovery. I had never thought of this kind of scenario's, but it has my mind whirling now. If one or both needs nursing home, when one is gone and one remains. Mind just whirling.
Anyway, that's been my week.
I have been keeping up with exercise most days and trying my best with diet. On a positive note, DD21 has been home this week doing Uni placement which has been wonderful and we had all 3 kids home for dinner on Tuesday night.
Oh and I got to talk to Sis-in-Law about DMum asking Brother to visit and Brother saying "we will just have to be satisfied with our telephone relationship". SiL knew nothing about it, so has already organized for her son to take Brother to visit DMum yesterday and promised she would drop Brother off after church on Sunday (after all they drive past EVERY SINGLE WEEK). DMum was thrilled. I don't know how long it will last, but it's something and it made DMum happy. Not much makes her happy these days.
Ok, so with me it's either a 'feast or a famine' when it comes to me posting. Thanks for reading if you did.
Today I plan to hit the house, 'room by room', just getting things back up to scratch. DD21 is coming next week and one of her friends is staying a few days too as they have some very early starts, so I'd like the house to be clean and organized.
Wishing you all a Wonderful Weekend xoxo
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Post by judy on Aug 28, 2015 23:50:30 GMT
 Hi Everyone
Hope you are able to catch up Medusa with a quiet weekend. Sorry to hear your DF is not well Shellie. It is a sad situation which as you said is one because of previous decisions. There are always consequences and some of them we dont realize til much later. Im glad your DSis-iL is now insisting DB visits DM (but how could she have not known??)
I would love to do a big clean at my house too. My problem this week is that DH is sleeping during the day- fine during the week but weekends (when Im home) I have to be quiet. Some days he hasn’t slept well or chosen to get the firewood when the Council chopped down trees on our nature strip so then he’s had a nap in the evening too. Its no real excuse for me as i haven’t even done the ‘quiet’ jobs yet like paying the bills and ironing!  He is going out this afternoon and won’t come home before Night Shift tonight so I do hope I have the energy to do a bit then!!
Today Im going to lunch with 4 girls I went to school with. We usually only meet once a year at Christmas so i dont know whether this is an ‘in stead of’ or an extra- Christmas being such a busy time. Its a 45 min drive there so that will take up a good chunck of my day. Ive got DS21s washing on at least. We are expecting rain still over the weekend -Im really over that now! After Monday DH has 2 months off work. He is going away for 16 days. Hopefully Ill get a lot done then!!!
Hope Everyone has time to relax over the Weekend!! x x
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Post by Elasti-Girl on Aug 29, 2015 1:49:02 GMT
Good Morning Medusa, Shellie, Judy & those to come later,So lovely to 'see' everyone today (& Elizabeth yesterday). I think of you all daily.  Medusa I hope you enjoy your quiet weekend & get plenty of rest  Shellie I'm so sorry you're in this situation with your Dad & his wife, I wish there was something more I could do.
You've done what you could, the hospital is aware of the situation & then it's up to the other family members that
have access to him to take care of him & his wife.
I'm so glad that DSiL is on board with getting your brother to see your DMum more often, I too don't see how she 'couldn't' know,
but at least now she's stepping in & doing something. ((hugs)) sending you lots of love & support 
Judy have a nice lunch out with your DFriends today! I'm sure when DH is away you'll be able to get ahead with everything
I've been out to buy groceries this morning & washed a load of laundry. Yesterday I got a stack more shredding & paper sorting done, I'm doing
a bit at a time, plus the shredder needs a break every now & then!  I scheduled some bills to BPay automatically when they're due so I can file those straightaway & forget about them.
The next step is to register whatever bills/accounts/notices I can via email so I can further reduce the paper trail.
Wishing you all a lovely day |
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Post by elizabeth36 on Aug 29, 2015 18:55:47 GMT
Hi everyone, Thanks for your welcome and hoping to post more often. Things work better when I do (who would have thunk that?!) Sending out (((hugs))) and healing thoughts to all who need them.
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He is going out this afternoon and won’t come home before Night Shift tonight so I do hope I have the energy to do a bit then!!
I scheduled some bills to BPay automatically when they're due so I can file those straightaway & forget about them.
