Good Morning it's Sunday 15th May 2016

Good Morning To all the Lovely Ladies

Hi all, I know I know, I have been very lax in my visits here, but honestly life is getting busier and more complicated.

I have barely had a moment to breathe after finalizing DMum's Estate (in fact that only finalized late last week) and have been thrown into helping out my Dad who is still in hospital and needs to enter Nursing Home care. I am his Enduring Guardian which means all major decisions about his health and living fall on me. This is somewhat complicated by the fact he and his wife have been together/married for almost 40yrs and I have NEVER had a relationship with his wife or her children. Now there has been a very good reason for that and it's not going to change. Dad had chosen to be very secretive over the years to his wife about how close Dad and I had remained, so it came as a bit of a shock and has caused much anger on the other side that Dad chose me over his wife or daughter to have this power.

For the 1st time in 40yrs I was forced to be in the same room as his wife and her daughter during a family meeting at the hospital (to explain Dad's health, progress and future), this was HUGE, I got through it with might I say the grace and decorum that my Dear Mother taught me. The wife's daughter tried to 'throw some shade' my way during the meeting, but I had previously explained the situation to all hospital staff in the room, so she just ended up looking foolish herself. Hubby came with me (thank god for Hubby) and there was Dad's wife, her daughter and Dad and his wifes very good friend who has been a godsend helping them out over the years, plus the hospital staff. On the morning of the meeting Dad's friend rang his wife out of courtesy to explain that hospital has requested he be there as he was a support person to both and in somewhat of a 'mediator' role between the two sides. I was personally very grateful of that, the wife's daughter threatened an AVO on him. What a nightmare. So he of course made sure that hospital staff was aware of that situation. Despite that he held Dad's wife's hand during the meeting and took time to explain the things she didn't understand (Dementia).   Since that meeting I have been informed of some really ugly things that have taken place recently and over the years (by a none family member) and I know see that even if Dad was physically able to return to his home he would not be safe physically/emotionally or mentally. So much, but don't want to put that on the computer

So next week I have meetings with ACAT (aged care providers) and then get to go view Nursing homes and make 4 choices, then when the 1st position becomes available he will be transferred to that facility. He will be moved in the mean time from current hospital to smaller hospital which is where patients wait for nursing home beds.

I did have a day yesterday (planned many months ago) with 2 very dear girlfriends. We went on a Winery tour called the 'Lovedale Long Lunch'. Bus trip around 3 wineries in the Hunter Valley with a meal at each stop. Then my girlfriends stayed over and we had a lovely dinner and a few drinks here. It really was fun and a day away from the drama we have all been going through in one way or another.

Opps my friends are awake, got to go, xoxox