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Post by medusahair on Jun 2, 2016 21:43:32 GMT
Good Morning
Today DD is going to school and I am going to the Cake Bake and Sweets Expo at homebush
Have a great day
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Post by shellie on Jun 2, 2016 22:32:46 GMT
Good Morning to all the Lovely Ladies
Well I have some of Dad's things and have been told there is more there to collect. I have washed a lot up, sorting whats useful, what's summer and winter and will label before I take them in. The wardrobe is small so he will need a summer and winter selection. It's unfortunate that the mediator has gone off the radar but hopefully he will be in contact today and can collect things. I was given some conflicting info regarding Dad's wallet, I had asked him to ask for it from his wife, was told he had asked but it was always forgotten. Then I was told it was bought in one day but now I'm told it wasn't. It has been difficult to say the least relying on 2nd hand info, the word of my Dad who drifts from great clarity to total delusion and dealing with a mediator. I was also told Dad's wife couldn't find the wallet 2 days ago but now have been told it's been in his bedside table all along. It has been difficult dealing with paper work/banking without his full info and I had felt that Dad's requests were going unanswered intentionally. I have now been told he never asked for it. Honestly I don't know what to believe. I have received several texts from his SDaughter and she seems hostile in her texts and seemed hostile towards me in the family meeting, so to assume that she is being uncooperative is not a stretch. Anyway, hopefully Mediator collects things, sights wallet and all confusion can be ended. I have had to apologize for any confusion which I have no problem with as I am left to rely on 2nd hand info. I think the Mediator may cloud the issues sometimes with his personal opinions on those involved and will often go into a story about a previous situation rather than staying on track with the current situation so then I get confused as to which situation he is telling me about. When he collected the 1st lot of things, he said 'well this may be all you get and you should be happy your got this much'. So I assumed that was it. Now I'm told there is more. SO who knows. And who knows what condition they are in.
I will probably have to have a sit down with Dad, his wife, her daughter and hopefully the mediator to sort out a few things like the health insurance. More than 85% of his pension will go to the nursing home, he will have between $10-$20 leftover each fortnight. This will have to cover his medications and his toiletries. So Centerlink has informed his wife/her daughter that he can no longer contribute to the household expenses. This was expected. I need to get clarity on the health insurance. I won't be paying it, Dad can't afford it so I need to know whether to cancel it or if the wife wants to pay it (I am assuming the daughter won't which is fine) but I don't think she can afford it. I need to know that ALL parties are aware of this so there is no confusion down the track. I have been told by SD that her mother thinks he should go to rehab if he is able later on but the only way this can be is if he stays in a fund. So I need all parties to agree to it being paid or being canceled.
So life has been in a turmoil. I am hoping that it settles down once all the stuff has been collected and we can all go back to our normal lives. That Dad can settle down and settle in. I feel he has done me a great dis-service with how his life was organized and the mess I have had to clean up. Not organizing their direct debits separately etc, but then if I looked at mine and Hubby's they are all in together. Not to mention the mess I have been told they were living in that his SDaughter has had to clean and sort through. I was unaware of any of that and been told they had cleaning service/pool maintenance/yard work being done by a Home Help service, so assumed the place was clean and tidy and the washing was being done. Apparently many things were put away dirty without realizing they were, so I have been dealing with old and persistent stains, some have come out and other things can't be saved.
Anyway, washing machine is going with some sloppy joes I sprayed with stain remover last night. The thing is I am washing just about everything but it's not until they are sprayed, soaked and washed that I can determine if they are useful. The things with chlorine stains are easy decision, but other things need washing before I can decide.
Best get on. Wishing you all a Fabulous Friday and here's to a Happy, Peaceful, Stressfree, Calm and Relaxing weekend xoxo
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Post by shellie on Jun 3, 2016 2:29:36 GMT
Awesome turn of events. SDaughter just texted and told me her mother doesn't want to pay for my fathers health insurance. Fair enough, her choice, so I have rang and cancelled it as he can not afford it and it's not my financial responsibility. I had expected I would have to have a 'sit down' to discuss this issue. My cancelling now prompts the Health Ins to call Dad's wife to inform her and ask if she wants to continue. So I have no reason to contact them regarding this matter. Happy result. I do like having things in writing, so texts will do for that.
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